Afyon\u2019dan yazan Ali, 2006\u2019da kendini ne kadar \u00e7aresiz hissetti\u011fini anlatt\u0131. Gelen cevaplarda teselli, inan\u00e7, g\u00fcven ve insanlar\u0131n internet \u00fczerinden birbirine ne \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde destek olabilece\u011fi konu\u015fuldu.<\/p>
8 Mart 2006\u2019da al\u013103 kullan\u0131c\u0131 ad\u0131yla aram\u0131za kat\u0131lan Ali, \u201cumutsuzlu\u011fum\u201d ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7t\u0131. Forum profilinde konumunu Afyon olarak belirtmi\u015fti. \u0130yi niyetle yakla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 insanlardan kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6remedi\u011fini, ili\u015fkilerinde hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve kendisini i\u015fe yaramaz hissetti\u011fini anlatt\u0131. \u0130nsan sevgisini kaybetmedi\u011fini s\u00f6ylese de art\u0131k ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemedi\u011fi bir bo\u015flukta oldu\u011funu belirterek yard\u0131m istedi.<\/p>
Bu, yaln\u0131zca g\u00fcndelik bir yak\u0131nma de\u011fildi. Ali ertesi g\u00fcn yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 mesajda ge\u00e7mi\u015fte bir intihar giri\u015fiminde bulundu\u011funu da a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131. Bu payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131n\u0131n ciddiyetini ortaya koyuyordu. Ar\u015fivdeki s\u00f6zlerini aktar\u0131rken onu bir tart\u0131\u015fma malzemesine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmemek ve ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131na uzaktan kesin bir tan\u0131 koymamak \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>
Forum y\u00f6neticilerimizden prizma, Ali\u2019ye \u00f6zel olarak e-posta g\u00f6ndermeyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc ancak ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da ayn\u0131 duygular\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yor olabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yleyerek forumda yan\u0131t vermeyi se\u00e7ti. Dertleri payla\u015fman\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm aray\u0131\u015f\u0131nda \u00f6nemli bir ad\u0131m olabilece\u011fini vurgulad\u0131. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n k\u00f6t\u00fc davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na ra\u011fmen iyilik yapma iste\u011fini korumaktan ve insana umut verebilecek ili\u015fkiler kurmaktan s\u00f6z etti.<\/p>
Buket daha mesafeli yakla\u015fmay\u0131 \u00f6nerdi. BaSbELaSI ise kendi yaln\u0131zl\u0131k deneyiminden ve inanc\u0131n\u0131n kendisine sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 teselliden bahsetti. Bu yorumlar d\u00f6nemin ki\u015fisel ve dini bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 yans\u0131t\u0131yordu; profesyonel ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 deste\u011finin yerine ge\u00e7ebilecek tavsiyeler olarak de\u011ferlendirilmemelidir.<\/p>
29 Mart\u2019ta Ali, forumdaki destek i\u00e7in te\u015fekk\u00fcr ederek \u00f6nemli bir de\u011fi\u015fiklikten s\u00f6z etti. Zor bir gece ge\u00e7irdi\u011fini ve \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc anlatt\u0131; ard\u0131ndan bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n, iyi insanlar\u0131n de\u011ferini g\u00f6ren ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da bulunabilece\u011fini hat\u0131rlatmas\u0131n\u0131n kendisini etkiledi\u011fini belirtti. Bundan sonra hayata daha s\u0131k\u0131 sar\u0131lmak istedi\u011fini ve derdi olan di\u011fer \u00fcyelerle de konu\u015fmaya haz\u0131r oldu\u011funu yazd\u0131.<\/p>
Bu mesaj, o g\u00fcn i\u00e7in dile getirdi\u011fi bir umut ve niyettir. Ali\u2019nin sonraki y\u0131llardaki hayat\u0131na veya sa\u011fl\u0131k durumuna ili\u015fkin kesin bir sonu\u00e7 \u00e7\u0131karmam\u0131za imk\u00e2n vermez.<\/p>
Ba\u015fl\u0131k ilerledik\u00e7e ba\u015fka \u00fcyeler de vicdan azab\u0131, insanlara g\u00fcvenme ve iyilik yapma konular\u0131nda deneyimlerini payla\u015ft\u0131. Rose&Rain, ge\u00e7mi\u015fte bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa sert davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in duydu\u011fu pi\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 anlatt\u0131. Ali ve ba\u015fka \u00fcyeler onu dinleyerek yan\u0131t verdi. B\u00f6ylece ilk mesajdaki yard\u0131m aray\u0131\u015f\u0131, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 dertle\u015fmeye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc.<\/p>
Ancak Ali\u2019nin insanlarla konu\u015fmak amac\u0131yla MSN adresini payla\u015fmas\u0131, baz\u0131 \u00fcyelerde g\u00fcvenlik ve niyet konusunda ku\u015fku uyand\u0131rd\u0131. Ali yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 savundu; baz\u0131 mesajlar k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 bir h\u00e2l ald\u0131. Bu b\u00f6l\u00fcm, internet \u00fczerinden yak\u0131nl\u0131k kurman\u0131n ve ki\u015fisel ileti\u015fim bilgilerini payla\u015fman\u0131n 2000\u2019li y\u0131llarda da tart\u0131\u015fmal\u0131 oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor.<\/p>
\u201cUmutsuzlu\u011fum\u201d ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131, 36 mesaj boyunca yaln\u0131zca umutsuzlu\u011fu de\u011fil, dinlenme ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 deste\u011fi ve \u00e7evrimi\u00e7i ileti\u015fimde g\u00fcven meselesini de g\u00fcndeme ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131. Ali\u2019nin ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7taki yard\u0131m \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131na verilen insani yan\u0131tlar \u00f6nemliydi; buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k a\u011f\u0131r ruhsal s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ya\u015fayan birinin yaln\u0131zca forum yorumlar\u0131yla desteklenmesinin s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 da vard\u0131r.<\/p>
Bug\u00fcn ar\u015fivimize bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, en \u00e7ok \u015fu soruyu g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz: Bir insan yard\u0131m istedi\u011finde onu yarg\u0131lamadan dinlemeyi ba\u015farabiliyor muyuz?<\/p>
\u0130lk mesaj: 8 Mart 2006 Toplam: 36 mesaj B\u00f6l\u00fcm: S\u0131r K\u00fcp\u00fc<\/p>