Forumdan Se\u00e7meler | Ekim 2002\u2013May\u0131s 2004 | Konu 79<\/p>
6 Ekim 2002\u2019de EminAbi.com\u2019da a\u00e7\u0131lan bir tart\u0131\u015fma, internet \u00fczerinden tan\u0131\u015fan iki insan\u0131n birbirine \u00e2\u015f\u0131k olup olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 soruyordu. Kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131lar, o y\u0131llar\u0131n sohbet odalar\u0131 ve yaz\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131ndan hareketle birbirinden farkl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fler dile getirdi.<\/p>
Konuyu ba\u015flatan \u00fcye, insanlar\u0131n birbirlerini g\u00f6rmeden de yaz\u0131\u015farak ve konu\u015farak duygusal yak\u0131nl\u0131k kurabileceklerini savundu. Ba\u015fka bir kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131, \u00f6nceden b\u00f6yle bir ili\u015fkiye inanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, ancak kendi deneyiminin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini de\u011fi\u015ftirdi\u011fini anlatt\u0131. Bir di\u011feri ise \u00f6nce kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki ki\u015finin karakterini ve i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 sevdi\u011fini, y\u00fcz y\u00fcze bulu\u015ftuklar\u0131nda duygular\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fc\u00e7lendi\u011fini payla\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>
Kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fteki \u00fcyeler, ekranda yaz\u0131lanlar\u0131n ki\u015finin ger\u00e7ek ya\u015fam\u0131ndaki davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla her zaman \u00f6rt\u00fc\u015fmeyebilece\u011fine dikkat \u00e7ekti. Kimli\u011fin ve niyetlerin do\u011frulanamamas\u0131, \u00f6zellikle duygusal ba\u011f kurulurken temkinli olmay\u0131 gerektiriyordu. Baz\u0131 \u00fcyeler i\u00e7in internet bir tan\u0131\u015fma arac\u0131 olabilirdi; fakat ili\u015fkinin yaln\u0131zca yaz\u0131\u015fmalardan ibaret kalmamas\u0131 \u00f6nemliydi.<\/p>
Kas\u0131m 2002\u2019de yazan bir kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131, internette tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ki\u015fiyle \u00f6nce uzun s\u00fcre telefonda konu\u015ftu\u011funu, ard\u0131ndan y\u00fcz y\u00fcze g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcklerini ve bir bu\u00e7uk y\u0131ld\u0131r birlikte olduklar\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131. Evlilik d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcklerini de belirtti. Ayn\u0131 mesajda, internette g\u00fcvenilir birini bulman\u0131n kolay olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00e7evrenin bu t\u00fcr tan\u0131\u015fmalara \u00f6nyarg\u0131yla yakla\u015fabildi\u011fini vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>
Tart\u0131\u015fmada kesin bir ortak cevap yoktu. Kimi \u00fcyeler duygular\u0131n yaz\u0131\u015fmayla ba\u015flayabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken kimileri g\u00fcvenin ve ger\u00e7ek hayattaki kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmalar\u0131n belirleyici oldu\u011funu savundu. Bug\u00fcn de ge\u00e7erli olan ders, tan\u0131\u015fma ortam\u0131ndan \u00e7ok kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn, zaman\u0131n ve ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i beklentilerin \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131mas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>
Editoryal not: Bu yaz\u0131, \u00f6zg\u00fcn forum mesajlar\u0131ndan se\u00e7ilerek yeniden anlat\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r; birebir al\u0131nt\u0131 de\u011fildir. Ki\u015fisel sald\u0131r\u0131lar, genellemeler ve tekrarlar d\u0131\u015far\u0131da b\u0131rak\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00d6zg\u00fcn mesajlar de\u011fi\u015ftirilmemi\u015ftir.<\/p>
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