Uyum, Aile ve K\u00fclt\u00fcrel Kimlik | Forumdan Se\u00e7meler | 2002\u20132003<\/p>
2002\u2019de ba\u015flayan bu forum tart\u0131\u015fmas\u0131nda \u00fcyeler, Avrupa\u2019da yeni bir hayata al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken neler ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131.<\/p>
2002 y\u0131l\u0131n\u0131n Kas\u0131m ay\u0131nda EminAbi.com’da a\u00e7\u0131lan bir tart\u0131\u015fma, T\u00fcrkiye’den Hollanda’ya evlilik yoluyla ta\u015f\u0131nan bir kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6zlemleriyle ba\u015flad\u0131. Yeni \u00e7evresinde kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ailevi ve sosyal beklentilerin, T\u00fcrkiye’de al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fam bi\u00e7iminden farkl\u0131 oldu\u011funu anlatt\u0131. \u00d6zellikle kad\u0131nlar\u0131n sosyal ya\u015fama kat\u0131l\u0131m\u0131 konusunda kendisini anla\u015f\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f hissetti\u011fini belirtti. Ayn\u0131 mesaj\u0131nda, herkesin ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmedi\u011fini ve kendi \u00e7evresinden s\u00f6z etti\u011fini de a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>
Ayn\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fmaya kat\u0131lan bir ba\u015fka kad\u0131n, yurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131na evlilik yoluyla yerle\u015ftikten sonra aile \u00e7evresinin kendisinden bekledikleriyle ilgili benzer g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckler ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131. Zamanla baz\u0131 al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zlemledi\u011fini de ekledi. Di\u011fer bir kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131 ise ya\u015fan\u0131lan \u00fclkeye uyum sa\u011flaman\u0131n \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu, fakat bunun k\u00fclt\u00fcrel ba\u011flardan b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcyle uzakla\u015fmak anlam\u0131na gelmedi\u011fini savundu.<\/p>
Danimarka’dan yazan bir \u00fcye, e\u015finin dil kursuna kat\u0131lmas\u0131yla zaman i\u00e7inde g\u00fcnl\u00fck i\u015flerini ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z bi\u00e7imde halledebildi\u011fini ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma hayat\u0131na ad\u0131m att\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131. Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta \u00e7evresinden bu \u00e7abay\u0131 gereksiz bulan yorumlar duyduklar\u0131n\u0131, ancak elde edilen sonucun olumlu oldu\u011funu belirtti. Verdi\u011fi temel \u00f6\u011f\u00fct, yeni bir \u00fclkede ya\u015farken o \u00fclkenin dilini \u00f6\u011frenmeye \u00f6nem vermekti.<\/p>
Hollanda’dan bir kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131, evlilikte \u00e7iftlerin kendi ya\u015fam alan\u0131na sahip olmas\u0131n\u0131n ili\u015fkileri daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bi\u00e7imde geli\u015ftirmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc yazd\u0131. Ba\u015fka bir \u00fcye, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan gelen de\u011ferlendirmelerden \u00e7ok e\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki anlay\u0131\u015fa odaklanmay\u0131 \u00f6nerdi. Kendi hayat\u0131ndaki sorunlar\u0131 anlatan bir kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131 da e\u015fler aras\u0131nda sakin ve do\u011frudan konu\u015fman\u0131n \u00f6nemine dikkat \u00e7ekti.<\/p>
Y\u0131llard\u0131r Hollanda’da ya\u015fayan bir kad\u0131n, T\u00fcrkiye’ye duydu\u011fu \u00f6zlemi, ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 dil ve k\u00fclt\u00fcr farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 ve zaman i\u00e7inde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma hayat\u0131na kat\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131. Kendi deneyiminden hareketle, zorlan\u0131lsa bile \u00f6\u011frenmeye ve g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015famda etkin olmaya devam etmenin \u00f6nemini vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>
Bu forum tart\u0131\u015fmas\u0131, farkl\u0131 \u00fclkelerde ya\u015fayan insanlar\u0131n ayn\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcrel k\u00f6klerden gelseler bile birbirinden farkl\u0131 deneyimlere sahip olabilece\u011fini g\u00f6steriyor. Kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131lar\u0131n ki\u015fisel anlat\u0131mlar\u0131 b\u00fct\u00fcn bir topluma genellenemez. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, dil \u00f6\u011frenme, aile i\u00e7i ileti\u015fim, k\u00fclt\u00fcrel aidiyet ve bireysel ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131k \u00fczerine s\u00f6yledikleri bug\u00fcn de d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye de\u011fer.<\/p>
Orijinal konu: Gurbetteki insanlar\u0131n kafa yap\u0131lar\u0131 \u00b7 topic_id: 156<\/a><\/p> Mesaj 1125 \u2014 Tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 ba\u015flatan kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131n\u0131n Hollanda\u2019daki deneyimi<\/a><\/p> Mesaj 1227 \u2014 Yeni gelen bir kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131n\u0131n aile beklentilerine ili\u015fkin deneyimi<\/a><\/p> Mesaj 1242 \u2014 Uyum ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrel kimlik \u00fczerine kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f<\/a><\/p> Mesaj 1313 \u2014 Danimarka\u2019dan dil \u00f6\u011frenme ve ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131k deneyimi<\/a><\/p> Mesaj 1339 \u2014 Ayr\u0131 ya\u015fam alan\u0131, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fc ve sayg\u0131 \u00fczerine g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f<\/a><\/p> Mesaj 4379 \u2014 E\u015fler aras\u0131 ileti\u015fime ili\u015fkin de\u011ferlendirme<\/a><\/p>