{"id":665,"date":"2026-11-10T23:55:49","date_gmt":"2026-11-10T23:55:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=665"},"modified":"2026-11-11T00:10:43","modified_gmt":"2026-11-11T00:10:43","slug":"when-trust-begins-to-waver","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=665","title":{"rendered":"When trust begins to waver\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<section class=\"eminabi-original-view\" hidden><button type=\"button\" class=\"eminabi-back-text\">\u2190 Back to the text<\/button><figure><img alt=\"\"\/><figcaption><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/section>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group eminabi-reading-text is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<aside class=\"ea-period-note\"><strong>Historical context \u00b7 January 2003<\/strong><p>This text was written against the background of the social circumstances, attitudes and language of its time. What was customary or accepted within certain social circles then may be viewed differently today. Different opinions also existed at the time.<\/p><\/aside>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>By Emin \u00d6zel \u00b7 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u00b7 Ekin Dergisi 77 \u00b7 January 2003<\/em><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span lang=\"tr\">G\u00fcvendi\u011finiz Da\u011flara Kar Ya\u011fd\u0131\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-840.webp\" alt=\"EminAbi \u00b7 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131\" style=\"width:180px;height:auto\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">EminAbi \u00b7 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You loved that rascal so much. So much that you shared everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That person was the remedy for every worry. Whenever something troubled you, you ran to them for refuge. Like a small child, you wanted to put your head in their lap and have them stroke your hair for hours. Your love was intense and boundless. But as time passed, you seemed to become strangers. The familiar touch disappeared. Warmth was withheld. It seemed as though your stories were no longer understood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What was happening? Could there be someone else?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Doubts began. You might even watch or follow the other person. Yet you found nothing you could see.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You needed to hear \u201cI love you\u201d more often than before, because your worries constantly needed reassurance. Even when the words were spoken, you could no longer feel the old warmth. The suspicion grew that this person did not truly love you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You too began behaving coldly, and the distance grew. Perhaps it even led to separation. The beautiful moments and sincere feelings disappeared. You too became caught in the game of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The story had ended. But\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you had reacted less sensitively and remained a little more detached and calm, the outcome might have been different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Unfortunately, because of the way people, particularly people within our society, approach things, hundreds, perhaps thousands, are added to the ranks of the unhappy every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We look for faults and shortcomings in others first. We criticise the other person and place the blame there if we can. We do not readily accept our own mistakes. Everything becomes a matter of pride. Our eyes look outwards; we do not take the trouble to pick up a mirror and look at ourselves. That is how we are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How about standing in front of a mirror and looking at yourself from time to time? Wishing you strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">EminAbi \u00b7 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The original publication<\/h2>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The original Turkish magazine pages appear below. Only Emin \u00d6zel\u2019s column is translated above; readers\u2019 letters and replies remain available in the original scans.<\/p>\n\n<div class=\"ea-issue-pages ea-issue-four\"><figure><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Kapak.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Kapak-300.webp\" alt=\"Ekin Dergisi 77 \u2014 Cover\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/a><figcaption>Cover<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Dert_Ortagi_01-300.webp\" alt=\"Ekin Dergisi 77 \u2014 Page 85\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/a><figcaption>Page 85<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Dert_Ortagi_03.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Dert_Ortagi_03-300.webp\" alt=\"Ekin Dergisi 77 \u2014 Page 86\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/a><figcaption>Page 86<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-01-Ekin_77-Dert_Ortagi_02-300.webp\" alt=\"Ekin Dergisi 77 \u2014 Page 87\" loading=\"lazy\"\/><\/a><figcaption>Page 87<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=198\" hreflang=\"tr\">Turkish editorial version (Turkish)<\/a><\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/en\/dert-ortagi\/\">\u2190 Back to Dert Orta\u011f\u0131<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2190 Back to the text Historical context \u00b7 January 2003 This text was written against the background of the social circumstances, attitudes and language of its time. What was customary or accepted within certain social circles then may be viewed differently today. Different opinions also existed at the time. By Emin \u00d6zel \u00b7 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-665","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/665","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=665"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/665\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":707,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/665\/revisions\/707"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=665"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}