{"id":201,"date":"2026-11-03T17:04:13","date_gmt":"2026-11-03T17:04:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=201"},"modified":"2026-11-04T20:00:49","modified_gmt":"2026-11-04T20:00:49","slug":"dert-ortagi-2003-04","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=201","title":{"rendered":"Ben Yand\u0131m, Eller Yanmas\u0131n!"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-group has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-32efe032 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=139\">\u2190 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 T\u00fcm say\u0131lar<\/a><\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Nisan 2003<\/strong> \u00b7 Ekin Dergisi \u00b7 Say\u0131 80 \u00b7 Sayfa 63\u201365<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Bu tarih\u00ee metin, bas\u0131l\u0131 sayfalardan okunabilir bi\u00e7imde aktar\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. D\u00f6nemin anlat\u0131m\u0131 ve g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fleri korunmu\u015f, tekrar eden dergi duyurular\u0131 aktar\u0131lmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Orijinal sayfalar a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dad\u0131r.<\/em><\/p><h1 class=\"wp-block-heading has-xx-large-font-size\">Ben Yand\u0131m, Eller Yanmas\u0131n!<\/h1><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Yazan: Emin \u00d6zel<\/strong><\/p><figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"1117\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-840.webp\" alt=\"EminAbi \u2014 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 yazar\u0131\" class=\"wp-image-161\" style=\"width:180px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-840.webp 840w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-350.webp 350w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-hersteld.webp 1087w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 840px) 100vw, 840px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\">EminAbi \u00b7 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u00b7 Orijinal sayfa<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201c\u00c7ok \u00e7ektim, \u00e7ook. Ne zorluklarla bug\u00fcnlere geldim. A\u00e7 kald\u0131m, a\u00e7\u0131kta kald\u0131m, ama hep direndim. O da yetmiyormu\u015f gibi azar yedim, d\u00f6v\u00fcld\u00fcm, kovuldum&#8230; Hakaretler i\u015fittim, gururumla oynand\u0131, y\u0131prat\u0131ld\u0131m.\u201d Bu s\u00f6zleri duyunca kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini sava\u015ftan \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f birisi sanars\u0131n\u0131z. D\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan en a\u011f\u0131r \u015fekilde rencide ve i\u015fkence edilen birisi gelir akl\u0131n\u0131za. Biraz daha sohbeti koyula\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda olay\u0131 yava\u015f yava\u015f anlamaya ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda sava\u015ftan \u00e7\u0131kan bir gazi de\u011fil, evlili\u011finin zorluklar\u0131n\u0131 anlatan bir teyzedir. \u201cGeri kafal\u0131l\u0131k i\u015fte, erkektir bu, asar da, keser de deyip, bize olmad\u0131k \u015feyler yapt\u0131lar\u201d diye sohbetine devam eder. Birden akl\u0131n\u0131za annenizin isyanlar\u0131 gelir. Siz de zaman zaman buna benzer \u015feyler duymu\u015funuzdur. Her ne hikmetse \u00e7evrenizdeki ya\u015f\u00e7a b\u00fcy\u00fck kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu buna benzer \u015feyler s\u00f6yleyip dururlar. Ger\u00e7ekten olay bu derece ciddi midir? Ger\u00e7ekten annelerimizi Allah&#039;\u0131n birer emanti olarak alan babalar\u0131m\u0131z bu denli gaddar insanlar m\u0131(yd\u0131)? Ger\u00e7ekten onlara zul\u00fcm etmi\u015fler miydi? Onlar\u0131 birer d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcrcesine eziyet mi etmi\u015flerdi?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ba\u015fka bir sohbete kulak misafiri oldu\u011funuzda, bu kez de sanki bunu do\u011frulayan \u015feyler duyars\u0131n\u0131z. \u201cYa, zamane kad\u0131nlar\u0131 i\u015fte. Ne kocaya sayg\u0131, ne de itaat var! Otur dersin oturmaz, kalk dersin kalkmaz. Bizim zaman\u0131m\u0131zda b\u00f6yle miydi? Benden habersiz d\u0131\u015far\u0131 ad\u0131m ats\u0131n, vallaha ayaklar\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131rard\u0131m. Neymi\u015f bu b\u00f6yle? Herg\u00fcn herg\u00fcn \u00e7ar\u015f\u0131 pazar, ak\u0131llar\u0131 bir kar\u0131\u015f havada. Ne kad\u0131nl\u0131k var, ne de anal\u0131k. \u00c7ol \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u00fc\u00e7 be\u015f kuru\u015f para verip d\u0131\u015far\u0131 savarlar, ondan sonra bekle akibetini. Hat\u0131rl\u0131yorumda, bir defas\u0131nda benimki habersiz annesinin yan\u0131na gitti diye, iki g\u00fcn ah\u0131ra hapis etmi\u015ftim. Hem de a\u00e7 susuz&#8230;\u201d<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hayret edersiniz. Daha \u00f6nce duydu\u011funuz \u015feyler, di\u011fer tarafdan gurur duyulurcas\u0131na do\u011frulanmaktad\u0131r.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00fcnler ge\u00e7er&#8230; Derken bu kez otob\u00fcste \u00fc\u00e7-be\u015f gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n sohbeti dikkatinizi \u00e7eker: \u201cBen annem gibi olmayaca\u011f\u0131m. Kendimi kesinlikle ezdirmeyece\u011fim. Neymi\u015f o, kad\u0131n\u0131 esir gibi kullanmak. Zaten annem de \u00f6yle s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor, aman ha k\u0131z\u0131m, ben yand\u0131m sen yanma. Sak\u0131n ha kendini kocana ezdirme. \u0130\u015fi ba\u015f\u0131ndan s\u0131k\u0131 tutarsan, sana t\u0131k diyemez.\u201d<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yorumlar\u0131n\u0131z artar&#8230; D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleriniz de. Elinizdeki gazetedeki bir yaz\u0131 g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcze tak\u0131l\u0131r: \u201cyeni ku\u015fak da ayr\u0131l\u0131klar f\u0131rlad\u0131\u201d. Gazetede hayli b\u00fcy\u00fck bir man\u015fettir bu. Size bu haber pek yabanc\u0131 gelmez. Olaca\u011f\u0131 buydu dersiniz. Bir tarafda ezilmi\u015f bir kesim, di\u011fer tarafda ezen bir kesim ve sonradan \u00f6nlemler almak isteyen yeni bir kesim; yeni ku\u015fak.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Annelerimizin dilleri o denli yanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ki, k\u0131zlar\u0131na evlilik i\u00e7erisinde kad\u0131n erke\u011fin g\u00f6revlerini anlatacaklar\u0131 yere, kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc ve diretkenli\u011fini konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. \u015eimdiki erkekleri kendi d\u00f6nemlerindeki erkekler gibi g\u00f6rmekten vazge\u00e7ememektelerdir. Derken evliliklere dolayl\u0131 yollardan da olsa, m\u00fcdahele edilir.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Elbette her eski ku\u015fa\u011f\u0131n kad\u0131n\u0131 veya erke\u011fi bu olaylara tabii de\u011fildir.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Elbette her g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz ya\u015fl\u0131 teyzeniz veya amcan\u0131z b\u00f6yle zorluklar ya\u015famam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ama toplum olarak e\u011fri oturup, do\u011fru konu\u015fal\u0131m. Bu s\u00f6ylediklerim kesinlikle toplumumuzun b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ay\u0131b\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gelin de eskinin \u00fczerinden ge\u00e7ip, bundan sonra daha olumlu \u015feyler yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fal\u0131m. Ya\u015fanan tats\u0131z olaylarla yeni nesili \u00fcrk\u00fct\u00fcp, ayakland\u0131r\u0131p, y\u00fcrekleri birbirlerine kar\u015f\u0131 sevgi dolu olan bu insanlar\u0131n mutluluklar\u0131yla oynamayal\u0131m.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00f6receksiniz, biraz kendinize hakim olup \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n mutluluklar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, y\u00fcre\u011finizdeki yaralar birer birer sar\u0131lmaya ba\u015flayacakt\u0131r. Sonu\u00e7ta yine kar\u0131koca, birlikteli\u011finizi \u00d6mr\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn sonuna kadar s\u00fcrd\u00fcreceksiniz&#8230; Sayg\u0131lar, EminAbi.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">\u00d6lmek istiyorum! \u2014 \u00c7aresiz, Hollanda<\/h2><figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"562\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-2003-apr-man-840.webp\" alt=\"Dergide kullan\u0131lan, elini y\u00fcz\u00fcne kapatm\u0131\u015f erkek g\u00f6rseli\" class=\"wp-image-193\" style=\"width:420px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-2003-apr-man-840.webp 840w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-2003-apr-man-350.webp 350w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-2003-apr-man.webp 1533w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 840px) 100vw, 840px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\">Dergideki g\u00f6rselin temizlenmi\u015f kopyas\u0131 \u00b7 Orijinal sayfa<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Arkada\u015flar, hemen konuya giriyorum. Avrupa&#039;da ya\u015f\u0131yorum, 24 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m. 15 ya\u015f\u0131nda T\u00fcrkiye&#039;ye ailem taraf\u0131ndan kuran kursuna g\u00f6nderildim, 2 seneye yak\u0131n okulda yatt\u0131m kalkt\u0131m, 17 ya\u015f\u0131mda Avrupa&#039;ya d\u00f6nmek istedim, ailem izin vermedi. D\u00f6nmem i\u00e7in, e\u011fer evlenirsen olabilir dediler. Ben de mecburi bir \u015fekilde evlenmek zorunda kald\u0131m. \u015eu an iki \u00e7ocuk babas\u0131y\u0131m. E\u015fimi hi\u00e7 sevmedim, sevemedim, bo\u015fanmak istedim. Ailem, \u00e7evrem hep kar\u015f\u0131ma \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131 babas\u0131z da b\u00fcy\u00fctmek istemiyorum ama, bir \u015fekilde mecburum bo\u015fanmaya veya \u00f6lmeye; bu hayat b\u00f6yle devam edemez bence! Bundan 4-5 ay \u00f6nce d\u00fcnya g\u00fczeli bir bayan \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ma, \u015fu an onu \u00e7ok seviyorum, o da beni seviyor (hatta cinsel ili\u015fkiye bile girdik). Sevdi\u011fim kad\u0131n dul, 20 ya\u015f\u0131nda. Bu bayan T\u00fcrkiye&#039;den biriyle evlenmeyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor, s\u0131rf benim yuvam\u0131 y\u0131kmamak i\u00e7in. Ama benim yuvam zaten y\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015f veya y\u0131k\u0131lmak \u00fczere. Kar\u0131ma gelince o beni \u00e7ok seviyor, beni elinde tutmak i\u00e7in elinden geleni yap\u0131yordu ama, son 1 senedir beni 10 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki \u00e7ocuk gibi g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131. Hep emrediyor, 1 saat kar\u0131mla ba\u015fba\u015fa kalsak hemen bir tart\u0131\u015fma ba\u015fl\u0131yor. Ailem duyunca ben k\u00f6t\u00fc oluyorum. Ne yapaca\u011f\u0131m bilmiyorum, kafay\u0131 yemek \u00fczereyim. Yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u015feyleri yapmaya ba\u015flad\u0131m. Alkol kullanmazd\u0131m, \u015fu an kullan\u0131yorum. Esrar&#039;a bile ba\u015flad\u0131m. Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 ben de tasdik etmiyorum ama, \u00e7areyi onlarda bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum (bulamayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 bildi\u011fim halde). Sevdi\u011fim kad\u0131n i\u00e7in can\u0131m\u0131 hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden verebilirim. Ne yap\u0131y\u0131m, kendimi k\u00f6pr\u00fcden a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 at\u0131p kurtulay\u0131m m\u0131, yoksa bu \u00e7ileyi bu i\u015fkenceyi \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu \u00e7ekeyim mi?<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Misafir<\/h2><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Senin dertlerini inan y\u00fcre\u011fimde ya\u015fayarak anl\u0131yorum. Ben de \u00fcvey ana elinde b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f biri olarak derimki: her\u015feye ra\u011fmen ya\u015fama devam etmelisin, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayat ya\u015famaya de\u011fer! Biz millet olarak devaml\u0131 bizden \u00fcsttekilere bakar, i\u00e7 ge\u00e7irir, ula\u015famad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yerlerin hayalini kurarak kahroluruz. Bir kere de bizden a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dakilerin hallerine bakal\u0131m. Bakal\u0131m ki, orada yiyecek bir lokmalar\u0131 olmayan zavall\u0131 insanlar\u0131, ac\u0131 \u00e7eken \u00e7aresiz insanlar\u0131, evsiz barks\u0131z kimsesizleri g\u00f6r\u00fcnce elimizde olanlar\u0131n k\u0131ymetini anlayal\u0131m. Ve ne kadarda mutsuz sansak kendimizi, elimizdekilerle mutlu olmas\u0131n\u0131 bilelim. \u0130nsanlar do\u011fu\u015ftan bir \u015feye muptela de\u011fildir. Her insan de\u011fi\u015febilir, sen han\u0131m\u0131nda sevmedi\u011fin veya \u00f6tekinde bulup kendi han\u0131m\u0131nda bulunmayan \u00f6zellikleri konu\u015farak, kendi han\u0131m\u0131na a\u015f\u0131layabilirsin. K\u00f6t\u00fc sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n huylar\u0131 halledebilirsin san\u0131r\u0131m. Senin problemin, ba\u015fka biriyle ili\u015fki kurman ve evinde ya\u015fayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n heyecanlar\u0131 ba\u015fka yerde ya\u015fayabilmendir. Sen ili\u015fkini bitirip unutup evine yuvana d\u00f6nsen, elindeki imkanlarla yetinmesini bilebilsen, ger\u00e7ekten mutlu olursun. Ayr\u0131ca \u00e7oluk \u00e7ocu\u011funda mutlu olur. Ben b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 inan ya\u015fad\u0131m defalarca, \u00e7ok kad\u0131nla ili\u015fkim oldu. Evde \u00e7oluk \u00e7ocu\u011fu dayaktan ge\u00e7irdim, huzur vermedim. Ama sonu\u00e7ta ger\u00e7ek huzurun evimde oldu\u011funu anlad\u0131m. Ba\u015f\u0131ma olmad\u0131k musibetler geldikten sonra, \u015fimdi evimdeyim. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131mla mutluyum&#8230; Ba\u015fka aray\u0131\u015f i\u00e7inde de\u011filim, han\u0131m\u0131m\u0131 da istedi\u011fim d\u00fczeye getirdim, o da mutlu ben de. Sana da denemeni tavsiye ederim. Ger\u00e7i bir zaman kendini k\u00f6t\u00fc, terkedilmi\u015f, zevk almayan biri gibi hissedebilirsin, ama inan ge\u00e7icidir bunlar. Sana ba\u015far\u0131lar dilerim.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Merve \u2014 Hollanda<\/h2><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mutsuzum diyorsun ve e\u015fim bana \u00e7ocuk muamelesi yap\u0131yor diyorsun. Ama ayn\u0131 zamanda e\u015fim beni seviyor diyorsun. Acaba sen e\u015fini hi\u00e7 sevmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131n m\u0131? Yoksa onu ba\u015ftan beri Avrupa&#039;ya gelebilmek i\u00e7in tek \u00e7are olarak m\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcn? E\u015fin seni ger\u00e7ekten seviyorsa, sen de sevmeyi dene. Sonu\u00e7ta o da bir insan. Ayr\u0131ca yuva y\u0131kmak kadar k\u00f6t\u00fc bir\u015fey de yoktur bence. \u00d6zelliklede \u00e7ocuklar varsa. Do\u011fru karar\u0131 vermeni umar\u0131m, unutma d\u00fcnya \u00fc\u00e7 g\u00fcnl\u00fck d\u00fcnya, k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fil yap\u0131c\u0131 olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fal\u0131m.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Minik \u2014 T\u00fcrkiye<\/h2><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 annesiz b\u0131rakma, kar\u0131n seni seviyorsa sen de onu sevmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f. Ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 sevmi\u015f olabilirsin, ama unutadabilirsin. Her\u015fey senin elinde, kendini topla ve hayata d\u00f6rt elle sar\u0131l. Kendini b\u0131rak\u0131rsan, bu d\u00fcnya zaten ac\u0131mas\u0131z, yok olursun . \u00c7ocuklar\u0131na ve kar\u0131na sahip \u00e7\u0131k, kendini de onlar\u0131 da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek zorundas\u0131n. \u0130yi baba olman i\u00e7in \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n da senin gibi olmas\u0131n. Onlara \u00f6rnek ol, i\u00e7kiyi esrar\u0131 b\u0131rak. Sen birazda kendi kendine etmi\u015fsin.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Afyonlu \u2014 Hollanda<\/h2><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Unutma, U\u00e7urumun kenar\u0131nda olsanda, s\u0131rf hayata g\u0131c\u0131kl\u0131k olsun diye G\u00dcL\u00dcMSE!<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gaye \u2014 Hollanda<\/h2><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Herkesin sorunlar\u0131 kendine a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r ve d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131nca bir ba\u015fka ki\u015fiyi anlamak \u00e7ok zordur. O y\u00fczden elimden geldi\u011fi kadar kendimi senin yerine koyup senin yerinde ben olsayd\u0131m ne yapard\u0131m onu s\u00f6ylece\u011fim. Mesaj\u0131ndan ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan en a\u00e7\u0131k ve g\u00f6zard\u0131 edilemeyecek kadar \u00f6nemli olan nokta senin kendi ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 etkileyecek en \u00f6nemli kararlar\u0131n ailen taraf\u0131ndan al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 ve senin bu kararlara kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kamay\u0131\u015f\u0131n. 15 ya\u015f\u0131ndayken aileye kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmak zordur tabii ki ama senin gibi gen\u00e7 bir insan\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131n bu \u015fekilde mahvolu\u015fu \u00e7ok \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc bir olay. Ailemiz \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir ama bu demek de\u011fildir ki onlar her\u015feyin en iyisini bilirler. Bunu farketti\u011fimiz zaman art\u0131k hayata bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m\u0131z eskisi gibi olmayacakt\u0131r. Benim sana tavsiyem \u00e7evrendeki insanlar\u0131n senin kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 yarg\u0131lamalar\u0131na ve etkilemelerine f\u0131rsat vermeksizin ailenle ve kar\u0131nla konu\u015fup durumu onlara anlatman ve kesin kararl\u0131 oldu\u011funu onlara a\u00e7\u0131k bir \u015fekilde belirtmen. \u0130\u00e7ki i\u00e7en ve esrar kullanan bir ki\u015fiyi ciddi alacaklar\u0131n\u0131 sanmam. Bununla seni kesinlikle yarg\u0131lam\u0131yorum, her insan kendini avutacak bir \u015feye ihtiya\u00e7 duyar ve bu da senin se\u00e7imin. Ama a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 yukar\u0131 insanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bu konuda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc bildi\u011fim ve anlatt\u0131klar\u0131na g\u00f6re ailenin de sert g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fl\u00fc insanlar oldu\u011funa inand\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u00e7in bunu s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorum. Ayr\u0131ca cesaretini toplamak i\u00e7in de ay\u0131k kafaya ihtiya\u00e7 var, di mi? (buras\u0131 espri \u015feklinde alg\u0131lanmal\u0131d\u0131r, g\u00fclerek ve g\u00fclen bir ses tonuyla s\u00f6yledi\u011fimi farzet l\u00fctfen). Sak\u0131n kendini \u00f6ld\u00fcrmeye falan da kalkma, bu olanlara boyun e\u011fipte hayat\u0131 kendine zehir etme. Hayat siyah beyaz de\u011fil bence, arada griler ve tonlar\u0131 da var, umar\u0131m sen de bunu g\u00f6rebilirsin. Sevgiler&#8230;<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Orijinal bask\u0131<\/h2><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 sayfalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcn h\u00e2liyle incelemek i\u00e7in k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6rsellere t\u0131klay\u0131n. A\u00e7\u0131lan y\u00fcksek \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u00fckl\u00fc g\u00f6rseli cihaz\u0131n\u0131za kaydedebilirsiniz.<\/p><div class=\"wp-block-group is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-ced902a9 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\"><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Kapak.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Kapak-300.webp\" alt=\"Ekin Dergisi \u2014 Kapak\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Kapak.png\">Kapak<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_01-300.webp\" alt=\"Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 63\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\">Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 63<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_02-300.webp\" alt=\"Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 64\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\">Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 64<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_03.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_03-300.webp\" alt=\"Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 65\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2003\/2003-04-Ekin_80-Dert_Ortagi_03.png\">Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 65<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><\/div><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=139\">\u2190 T\u00fcm Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 yaz\u0131lar\u0131na d\u00f6n<\/a><\/p><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2190 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 T\u00fcm say\u0131lar Nisan 2003 \u00b7 Ekin Dergisi \u00b7 Say\u0131 80 \u00b7 Sayfa 63\u201365 Bu tarih\u00ee metin, bas\u0131l\u0131 sayfalardan okunabilir bi\u00e7imde aktar\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. D\u00f6nemin anlat\u0131m\u0131 ve g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fleri korunmu\u015f, tekrar eden dergi duyurular\u0131 aktar\u0131lmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Orijinal sayfalar a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dad\u0131r. Ben Yand\u0131m, Eller Yanmas\u0131n! Yazan: Emin \u00d6zel \u201c\u00c7ok \u00e7ektim, \u00e7ook. Ne zorluklarla bug\u00fcnlere geldim. A\u00e7 kald\u0131m, a\u00e7\u0131kta [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":139,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"dert-ortagi-uitgave","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-201","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/201","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=201"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/201\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":379,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/201\/revisions\/379"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/139"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=201"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}