{"id":143,"date":"2026-11-03T13:36:32","date_gmt":"2026-11-03T13:36:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=143"},"modified":"2026-11-03T21:46:24","modified_gmt":"2026-11-03T21:46:24","slug":"dert-ortagi-2002-12","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=143","title":{"rendered":"Kim Kime, Dum Duma"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-group has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-32efe032 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=139\">\u2190 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 T\u00fcm say\u0131lar<\/a><\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Aral\u0131k 2002<\/strong> \u00b7 Ekin Dergisi \u00b7 Say\u0131 76 \u00b7 Sayfa 83\u201385<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Bu tarih\u00ee metin, bas\u0131l\u0131 sayfalardan okunabilir bi\u00e7imde aktar\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. D\u00f6nemin anlat\u0131m\u0131 ve g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fleri korunmu\u015f, tekrar eden dergi duyurular\u0131 aktar\u0131lmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Orijinal sayfalar a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dad\u0131r.<\/em><\/p><h1 class=\"wp-block-heading has-xx-large-font-size\">Kim Kime, Dum Duma<\/h1><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Yazan: Emin \u00d6zel<\/strong><\/p><figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"1117\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-840.webp\" alt=\"EminAbi \u2014 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 yazar\u0131\" class=\"wp-image-161\" style=\"width:180px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-840.webp 840w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-350.webp 350w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-portrait-hersteld.webp 1087w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 840px) 100vw, 840px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\">EminAbi \u00b7 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u00b7 Orijinal sayfa<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&quot;Biz her \u015feyi senin iyili\u011fin i\u00e7in yap\u0131yoruz.&quot;, &quot;Seni sevmesek bunlara katlan\u0131r m\u0131yd\u0131k?&quot; falan filan.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hepiniz hayat\u0131n\u0131zda buna benzer \u015feyler duymu\u015funuzdur. Ebeveyninizden, e\u015finizden veya dostlar\u0131n\u0131zdan.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0130nsanlar sevdikleri i\u00e7in her \u015feyi yapmaya haz\u0131r gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrler ve bunu da s\u0131k\u00e7a ifade ederler. Gel gelelim i\u015f ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce bak\u0131n neler olur&#8230;<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir olay gelir ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131za, yard\u0131m i\u00e7in elinizi a\u00e7ars\u0131n\u0131z, sonu\u00e7ta herkes (\u00f6zellikle yak\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131z) bu i\u015fte benim g\u00f6revim nedir, ne gibi sorumluluklar ta\u015f\u0131yaca\u011f\u0131m ve ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131sa yoldan nas\u0131l yok edece\u011fim hesaplar\u0131n\u0131 yapar.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Elbette sizin i\u00e7in herkes ellerini kollar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131p, size yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in esas duru\u015fa ge\u00e7er adeta.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ama bir \u015feyler yap\u0131lmaya ba\u015fland\u0131ktan sonra herkes kendi yolunu \u00e7izmeye ba\u015flar. Yap\u0131lacak \u015fey &quot;topluca&quot; iyi sonu\u00e7lar vermelidir. Sonu\u00e7ta \u00e7evrenizdeki herkesin lehine olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc siz ba\u015f\u0131 bo\u015f ya\u015fam\u0131yorsunuz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Madem ki size yard\u0131m ediliyor, el uzat\u0131l\u0131yor, siz de nank\u00f6rl\u00fck etmeden baz\u0131 talimatlara uymak zorunda kal\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u00fcnya al g\u00fcl\u00fcm, ver g\u00fcl\u00fcm d\u00fcnyas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">H\u00e2l\u00e2 her \u015fey sizin iyili\u011finiz i\u00e7in yap\u0131lmaktad\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc siz onlar\u0131n canlar\u0131 kanlar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu arada sizin y\u00fcre\u011finizde hangi f\u0131rt\u0131nalar kopuyor, i\u00e7inizden hangi feryatlar duyuluyor ve hangi ac\u0131lar\u0131 \u00e7ekiyorsunuzdur, hi\u00e7 kimse bilmemektedir.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Evet, dalg\u0131ns\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r, son g\u00fcnler yemeden i\u00e7meden kesilmi\u015finizdir, hatta zay\u0131flam\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r&#8230;<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ama, y\u00fcre\u011finizde neler olup bitti\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcyorlar m\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki de bir ara hayat\u0131n\u0131za k\u0131ymaya karar al\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u00fcnyada sizi anlayabilecek veya derdinize derman olabilecek kimse kalmam\u0131\u015f gibidir. Art\u0131k bitmi\u015f, t\u00fckenmi\u015f bir vaziyettesinizdir&#8230;<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sanki sizin i\u00e7iniz kan a\u011flarken, herkes kendi derdine d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Adeta d\u00fcnya &quot;kim kime, dum duma&quot; d\u00fcnyas\u0131 olmu\u015ftur.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&quot;Anl\u0131yorum seni.&quot; derler. S\u0131k s\u0131k bunu ifade ederler. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc siz onlar i\u00e7in \u00e7ok de\u011ferli bir varl\u0131ks\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r&#8230;<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&quot;ANLAMIYORSUNUZ.&quot; dersiniz. Her g\u00fcn i\u00e7iniz kan a\u011flar. Geceleri kendi kabu\u011funuza \u00e7ekilip, g\u00fcn\u00fcn ve insanlar\u0131n yo\u011funlu\u011fundan uzakla\u015f\u0131p, kafan\u0131z\u0131 yast\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131za koydu\u011funuz an kalbinize s\u0131k\u0131lan morfin usul usul tesirini kaybetmeye ba\u015flar. Ac\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z, sanc\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z tekrar ba\u015flar. Y\u00fcre\u011finiz kan a\u011flar. Hatta ara s\u0131ra kendinizi tutamaz, g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 d\u00f6kersiniz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 her ge\u00e7en saat daha iyi anlars\u0131n\u0131z. \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm aramaya ve herkesin benimseyebilece\u011fi bir ad\u0131m atmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. G\u00fcnler ilerler. Alternatifler d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz. Ya da secde edip Allah&#039;a yalvar\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Belki de bir mucize beklersiniz&#8230;<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Siz bir taraftan kendi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizle ilerleyip, bir taraftan da sizin iyili\u011finizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen ki\u015filerin yolundan giderken, hareketlerinizde bir tuhafl\u0131l\u0131k ke\u015ffedilir.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir g\u00fcn \u00f6yle, bir g\u00fcn b\u00f6yle davranmaya ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z. Bir g\u00fcn ak, bir g\u00fcn kara dersiniz. Bir g\u00fcn y\u00fcre\u011finize, bir g\u00fcn beyninize kulak veririsiniz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir g\u00fcn kendinizi, bir g\u00fcn de sevdiklerinizi dinlersiniz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Olay b\u00f6yle cereyan ederken, herkes iyice endi\u015fe i\u00e7erisinde neyin ne olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamay\u0131p, \u015fa\u015f\u0131rmaya ba\u015flar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc &quot;projeleri&quot; \u00e7izdikleri gibi ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilmemektedir. Beklenilen sonu\u00e7 acaba al\u0131namayacak m\u0131d\u0131r endi\u015fesi ba\u015flar. Ve size olan g\u00fcvence azal\u0131r. Art\u0131k yava\u015f yava\u015f nank\u00f6r damgas\u0131 a\u011f\u0131r a\u011f\u0131r aln\u0131n\u0131za bas\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">SU\u00c7LUSUNUZ!<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yolun yar\u0131s\u0131ndan geri d\u00f6nd\u00fcn\u00fcz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z karardan vazge\u00e7tiniz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc &quot;topluca&quot; elde edilecek sonuca engel oldunuz. \u0130hanet ettiniz. Sevdiklerinizin hisleriyle, gururlar\u0131yla oynad\u0131n\u0131z. Onlar size yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in kan\u0131n\u0131 can\u0131n\u0131 feda ederken, siz onlara bir tekme at\u0131p, s\u0131rt\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 d\u00f6nerek kendi ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n \u00e7aresine bakmakla u\u011fra\u015ft\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hani sizin iyili\u011finiz, mutlulu\u011funuz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcl\u00fcyordu?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hani yeter ki siz iyi olun, onlar da bundan dolay\u0131 mutluluk duyacakt\u0131?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hani her \u015fey sizin iyili\u011finiz i\u00e7in yap\u0131l\u0131yordu da, neden k\u00f6t\u00fc oldu?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Neden y\u00fcre\u011finizin sesi duyulmad\u0131?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Neden anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131n\u0131z?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Neden sizin g\u00fcvendi\u011finize onlar g\u00fcvenemedi?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">BO\u015eVER\u0130N\u0130Z dostum&#8230;<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bunu ne ben ilk kez yaz\u0131yorum, ne de siz son kez okuyacaks\u0131n\u0131z&#8230;<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hayat o kadar kolay ve tatl\u0131 olsayd\u0131, ahiretin ne anlam\u0131 kal\u0131rd\u0131?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00dcZMEY\u0130N\u0130Z o tatl\u0131 can\u0131n\u0131z\u0131&#8230; Y\u00dcRE\u011e\u0130N\u0130Z\u0130, ama kesinlikle Y\u00dcRE\u011e\u0130N\u0130Z\u0130 dinlemeye devam ediniz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0130yi veya k\u00f6t\u00fc, her \u015feyi y\u00fcre\u011finize dayanarak yap\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hi\u00e7 de\u011filse kimseyi i\u015fin i\u00e7ine kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmam\u0131\u015f olursunuz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hi\u00e7 de\u011filse kimseye sorumluluk duymazs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hi\u00e7 de\u011filse kimse size nank\u00f6r diyemez&#8230; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc kendiniz edip kendiniz bulursunuz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hi\u00e7 de\u011filse kimseden dolay\u0131 vicdan azab\u0131 \u00e7ekmezsiniz, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc her \u015feyi kendinize edersiniz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">DEVAM ED\u0130N\u0130Z DOSTUM!<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hayata pes etmeyiniz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hayata bir kere pes ederseniz, art\u0131k hi\u00e7 muvaffak olamazs\u0131n\u0131z. Hayata her zaman devam deyiniz, devam ediniz.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Biliniz ki, hi\u00e7 kimse y\u00fcre\u011finizdeki o par\u0131lt\u0131y\u0131 s\u00f6nd\u00fcremeyecektir!<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kolay gelsin,<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">EminAbi<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dergide yer alan okur mektubu<\/h2><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">H\u00e2limden utan\u0131yorum \u2014 K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 G\u00fcl<\/h3><figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"1196\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-oog-840.webp\" alt=\"Dergide kullan\u0131lan kad\u0131n y\u00fcz\u00fc ve el detay\u0131\" class=\"wp-image-165\" style=\"width:320px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-oog-840.webp 840w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-oog-350.webp 350w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-oog-hersteld.webp 1051w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 840px) 100vw, 840px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\">Dergideki g\u00f6rselin temizlenmi\u015f kopyas\u0131 \u00b7 Orijinal sayfa<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Evlendim ve ayr\u0131ld\u0131m. Yeni ayr\u0131ld\u0131m say\u0131l\u0131r. Daha 21 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m ve \u00e7ok mutsuzum. Ger\u00e7i evliyken daha da mutsuzdum. Mutsuzlu\u011fumun sebebi, bunu s\u00f6ylemeye utan\u0131yorum, dul kalmamd\u0131r. Ne hayallerle evlenmi\u015ftim, her \u015feye ve herkese kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karak evlendim. Ama maalesef&#8230; yapamad\u0131m. K\u0131sa zaman evli kald\u0131k. Kendimi hi\u00e7 iyi hissetmiyorum. Allah&#039;a \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz yok. Ama \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fcy\u00fcm, art\u0131k hayat\u0131m\u0131 hi\u00e7 g\u00fczel g\u00f6remiyorum. Bu konuda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi alabilir miyim?<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dergide yay\u0131mlanan cevaplar<\/h2><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Talihsizk\u0131z81<\/h3><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Selam can\u0131m. Senin mesaj\u0131n\u0131 okudu\u011fumda sanki ben yazm\u0131\u015f\u0131m gibi oldum. Ben de 21 ya\u015f\u0131nda her \u015feye ra\u011fmen sevdi\u011fim ki\u015fiyle evlendim ve 2 bu\u00e7uk ay sonra ayr\u0131ld\u0131m. Ben de \u00e7ok mutsuzum. Hatta evliyken daha \u00e7ok mutsuzdum. Ben de ne hayallerle evlenmi\u015ftim Benim gururuma dokunan da 21 ya\u015f\u0131mda dul olmamd\u0131r!<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ne yapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 ben de bilmiyorum!!! Sana dert orta\u011f\u0131 olmak istiyorum. L\u00fctfen birbirimize yazal\u0131m. Ne de olsa kaderimiz ayn\u0131ym\u0131\u015f. Yaz\u0131\u015f\u0131rsan \u00e7ok sevinirim.<\/p><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dada\u015f<\/h3><figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_03.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"1074\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-vrouw-840.webp\" alt=\"Dergide kullan\u0131lan mavi fonlu kad\u0131n g\u00f6rseli\" class=\"wp-image-166\" style=\"width:320px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-vrouw-840.webp 840w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-vrouw-350.webp 350w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/illustraties\/dert-ortagi-december-vrouw-hersteld.webp 1109w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 840px) 100vw, 840px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_03.png\">Dergideki g\u00f6rselin temizlenmi\u015f kopyas\u0131 \u00b7 Orijinal sayfa<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fcl neden \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcyorsun anlamad\u0131m. Ne mutlu ki \u00e7ocu\u011fun yok. Daha ya\u015f\u0131n gen\u00e7, kar\u015f\u0131na ne f\u0131rsatlar \u00e7\u0131kacak, yeter ki sab\u0131rl\u0131 ol. Ke\u015fke ben de senin gibi olsayd\u0131m. Evliyim ve iki \u00e7ocu\u011fum var. S\u0131rf onlar i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u015feye katlan\u0131yorum. O \u00e7ocuklar olmasa inan ki \u00e7oktan ayr\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ve dul da olsa biriyle evlenmi\u015ftim. Ayr\u0131lmak dul kalmak ay\u0131p de\u011fil. Demek hay\u0131rl\u0131s\u0131 bu imi\u015f. Belki senin daha \u00e7ok k\u0131ymetini bilecek biriyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131r ve in\u015fallah mutlu olursun. \u0130nsanlar 60 ya\u015f\u0131nda ka\u00e7 tane \u00e7ocukla evleniyorlar. Sen neden umutsuzsun, bo\u015f ver hayat\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fa, ama do\u011fru ya\u015fa. Diyorum ya, ke\u015fke ben de \u00e7ocu\u011fum olmadan hatam\u0131n fark\u0131na var\u0131p ayr\u0131lsayd\u0131m, her \u015fey \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 olabilirdi. Sana mutluluklar diliyorum. E\u011fer okursan geli\u015fmelerden beni haberdar et. Haberlerini bekliyorum, bol \u015fanslar&#8230;<\/p><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Afyonlu \u2014 Hollanda<\/h3><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Selam K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 G\u00fcl. Bende \u00e7ok severek ve de herkese ba\u015fkald\u0131rarak evlendim, ama senin gibi sonunda bo\u015fand\u0131m. Sonu\u00e7: Ben tekrar evlendim ve mutlulu\u011fun ne oldu\u011funu ger\u00e7ekten \u015fimdi anlad\u0131m. Eski e\u015fime gelince, o da evlendi ve o da \u015fimdi mutlu bir hayat s\u00fcr\u00fcyor. Sonu\u00e7ta eski e\u015fim de, ben de \u015fimdiki hayat\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7ok mutluyuz. Unutma, mutlulu\u011fun kap\u0131n\u0131 ne zaman \u00e7alaca\u011f\u0131 belli olmaz! Kafana \u015fimdilik tokadan ba\u015fka bir \u015fey takma. Umar\u0131m yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilmi\u015fimdir.<\/p><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Nicole \u2014 Amerika Birle\u015fik Devletleri<\/h3><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 g\u00fcl, Bo\u015fand\u0131n diye d\u00fcnyan\u0131n sonu gelmez ki can\u0131m. Bo\u015f ver \u00fcz\u00fclme, dul kald\u0131m diye \u00fcz\u00fclmene gerek yok. Sen bu d\u00fcnyada bo\u015fanan tek han\u0131m de\u011filsin, en az\u0131ndan \u00e7ocuk yok, bu iyi. Bir de ya\u015f\u0131n \u00e7ok gen\u00e7 g\u00fczelim, \u00f6n\u00fcne kimler \u00e7\u0131kacakt\u0131r, bir g\u00fcn gelir yeni biriyle tan\u0131\u015f\u0131p yeniden evlenip \u00e7oluk \u00e7ocu\u011fa kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda dul kald\u0131\u011f\u0131ma bo\u015fu bo\u015funa \u00fcz\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm diyeceksin. Dul kalma hitab\u0131n\u0131 da sevmiyorum, bo\u015fand\u0131m bitti demek yeterlidir. Bo\u015fand\u0131n diye de\u011ferin mi azald\u0131 sanki, seni dul diyerek k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmseyen insanlar zaten kendileri yobazd\u0131r. Sen ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fckselt, g\u00f6\u011fs\u00fcn\u00fc ger ve kimsenin dediklerine ve diyeceklerine ald\u0131rma, kendine yeni ve mutlu bir ya\u015fam kur. Hayat \u00f6yle k\u0131sa ki, ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l istiyorsan \u00f6yle s\u00fcrd\u00fcr, aman ne derler diye herkesin istedi\u011fi gibi bir ya\u015fam s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcrsen sonunda senin hayat\u0131n senin olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kacakt\u0131r. Mutlu ol ve kendine iyi bak. Sevgilerimle, Nicole.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Aral\u0131k 2002&#039;den tarih\u00ee notlar<\/h2><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">EminAbi Sitesi Hakk\u0131nda Baz\u0131 Bilgiler<\/h3><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">EminAbi, 26 Mart 2001 tarihinde kurulmu\u015f olan bir internet sitesine verilen isimdir. Bu site arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131yla sorunu olan insanlar\u0131n bir araya gelip, birbirlerine derman olmalar\u0131 hedef al\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Sitenin sahibi ve kurucusu Hollanda&#039;da ya\u015famakta olan ve Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 k\u00f6\u015femizin yazar\u0131 Emin \u00d6zel&#039;dir. \u015eu an siteye kat\u0131l\u0131m d\u00fcnyan\u0131n her k\u00f6\u015fesinden ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilmektedir. T\u00fcrkiye, Hollanda, Almanya, Amerika Birle\u015fik Devletleri, Avusturya, Bel\u00e7ika, Danimarka, \u0130svi\u00e7re, \u0130sve\u00e7 ve \u0130ngiltere s\u0131ras\u0131yla ilk 10 \u00fclkeyi temsil etmektedir. Toplam 50 farkl\u0131 \u00fclke \u00fczerinden site ziyaret edilmektedir. Ziyaret\u00e7iler 15 ile 55 ya\u015f aras\u0131ndaki kesimden olu\u015fmaktad\u0131r. G\u00fcnl\u00fck faaliyetler g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc 7 ki\u015fi taraf\u0131ndan s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclmektedir. \u0130leride bu say\u0131n\u0131n artaca\u011f\u0131 beklenmektedir. Site 24 saat aral\u0131ks\u0131z ziyaret edilmektedir. \u00d6zellikle Hollanda saati ile sabah 8&#039;den, gece 12&#039;ye kadar yo\u011fun trafik ya\u015fanmaktad\u0131r. Son bir ay i\u00e7erisinde g\u00fcnl\u00fck ziyaret say\u0131s\u0131 1500&#039;e kadar \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Beklenilen bu rakam\u0131n yeni y\u0131l itibariyle ikiye katlanmas\u0131d\u0131r. (Kaynak: NedStat &#8211; Internet \u0130statistik Hizmetleri)<\/p><h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dergideki tarih\u00ee liste: Son bir ay i\u00e7erisinde en \u00e7ok ilgi g\u00f6ren 10 konu ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/h3><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1. \u00c7apk\u0131n bayan (2488 hit) Kad\u0131ndan \u00e7apk\u0131n olur mu, olmaz m\u0131 ve olursa ne olur.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2. Sat\u0131l\u0131k etler: Kad\u0131nlar (1992 hit) Kad\u0131nlar g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde bir seks objesi olarak kullan\u0131l\u0131yor mu?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3. Evlenmeden olmaz m\u0131? (1836 hit) Evlenmeden \u00f6nce cinsel ili\u015fkiye girilebilmeli mi, yoksa girilmemeli mi?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">4. S\u0131rr\u0131m\u0131 sadece sizlerle payla\u015f\u0131yorum (1526 hit) Patronu taraf\u0131ndan tecav\u00fcze u\u011frayan gen\u00e7 bir bayan\u0131n hayat hikayesi.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">5. Bekaret hakk\u0131nda (1506 hit) G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde kad\u0131nlarda bekaretin \u00f6nemi nedir?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">6. Alevilik nedir, ne de\u011fildir? (1283 hit) Alevili\u011fi ne kadar iyi biliyoruz ve Alevili\u011fe bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z nedir?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">7. Alevi-S\u00fcnni evlili\u011fi (1134 hit) Bir Alevi-S\u00fcnni evlili\u011fi sorunsuz ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilip s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclebilir mi?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">8. Bu ensest mi, ger\u00e7ek sevgi mi? (763 hit) Kuzeni ile cinsel ili\u015fkiye giren bir evli bayan\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri.<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">9. Erkekler neden bakir de\u011fil (597 hit) Erkekler de bekaretin \u00f6nemi nedir ve ne olmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">10. Zorday\u0131m (585 hit) Zorla evlendirilmek isteyen bir gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n yard\u0131m \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131.<\/p><h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Orijinal bask\u0131<\/h2><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kapa\u011f\u0131 ve Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 sayfalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcn h\u00e2liyle incelemek i\u00e7in k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6rsellere t\u0131klay\u0131n. A\u00e7\u0131lan y\u00fcksek \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u00fckl\u00fc g\u00f6rseli cihaz\u0131n\u0131za kaydedebilirsiniz.<\/p><div class=\"wp-block-group is-content-justification-left is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-ced902a9 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\"><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Kapak.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"425\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Kapak-300.webp\" alt=\"Kapak\" class=\"wp-image-135\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Kapak-300.webp 300w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Kapak-700.webp 700w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Kapak<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_01.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"434\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_01-300.webp\" alt=\"Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 1\" class=\"wp-image-136\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_01-300.webp 300w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_01-700.webp 700w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 1<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_02.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"427\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_02-300.webp\" alt=\"Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 2\" class=\"wp-image-137\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_02-300.webp 300w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_02-700.webp 700w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 2<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><div class=\"wp-block-group wp-container-content-1387b69e has-global-padding is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_03.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"429\" src=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_03-300.webp\" alt=\"Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 3\" class=\"wp-image-138\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_03-300.webp 300w, https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/wp-content\/uploads\/dert-ortagi\/2002\/2002-12-Ekin_76-Dert_Ortagi_03-700.webp 700w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 Sayfa 3<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div><\/div><p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/?page_id=139\">\u2190 T\u00fcm Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 yaz\u0131lar\u0131na d\u00f6n<\/a><\/p><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2190 Dert Orta\u011f\u0131 \u2014 T\u00fcm say\u0131lar Aral\u0131k 2002 \u00b7 Ekin Dergisi \u00b7 Say\u0131 76 \u00b7 Sayfa 83\u201385 Bu tarih\u00ee metin, bas\u0131l\u0131 sayfalardan okunabilir bi\u00e7imde aktar\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. D\u00f6nemin anlat\u0131m\u0131 ve g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fleri korunmu\u015f, tekrar eden dergi duyurular\u0131 aktar\u0131lmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Orijinal sayfalar a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dad\u0131r. Kim Kime, Dum Duma Yazan: Emin \u00d6zel &quot;Biz her \u015feyi senin iyili\u011fin i\u00e7in yap\u0131yoruz.&quot;, &quot;Seni sevmesek bunlara [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":139,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"dert-ortagi-uitgave","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-143","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/143","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=143"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/143\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":258,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/143\/revisions\/258"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/139"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/eminabi.com\/guncel\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=143"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}