By Emin Özel · Dert Ortağı · Ekin Dergisi 77 · January 2003
Güvendiğiniz Dağlara Kar Yağdı…
You loved that rascal so much. So much that you shared everything.
That person was the remedy for every worry. Whenever something troubled you, you ran to them for refuge. Like a small child, you wanted to put your head in their lap and have them stroke your hair for hours. Your love was intense and boundless. But as time passed, you seemed to become strangers. The familiar touch disappeared. Warmth was withheld. It seemed as though your stories were no longer understood.
What was happening? Could there be someone else?
Doubts began. You might even watch or follow the other person. Yet you found nothing you could see.
You needed to hear “I love you” more often than before, because your worries constantly needed reassurance. Even when the words were spoken, you could no longer feel the old warmth. The suspicion grew that this person did not truly love you.
You too began behaving coldly, and the distance grew. Perhaps it even led to separation. The beautiful moments and sincere feelings disappeared. You too became caught in the game of life.
The story had ended. But…
If you had reacted less sensitively and remained a little more detached and calm, the outcome might have been different.
Unfortunately, because of the way people, particularly people within our society, approach things, hundreds, perhaps thousands, are added to the ranks of the unhappy every day.
We look for faults and shortcomings in others first. We criticise the other person and place the blame there if we can. We do not readily accept our own mistakes. Everything becomes a matter of pride. Our eyes look outwards; we do not take the trouble to pick up a mirror and look at ourselves. That is how we are.
How about standing in front of a mirror and looking at yourself from time to time? Wishing you strength.
EminAbi · Dert Ortağı
The original publication
The original Turkish magazine pages appear below. Only Emin Özel’s column is translated above; readers’ letters and replies remain available in the original scans.
